The “Four Givens” are life’s universal realities that the Austrian psychoanalyst, Viktor Frankl often reflected on. Recognising and understanding them is part of finding purpose and peace in life. Here is an explanation of the Four Givens:
1. Death
We all know that life doesn’t last forever. While it can feel heavy, this realisation gives life urgency and meaning. Knowing our time is limited can push us to make the most of each day, to invest in things that matter, and to cherish our relationships. Instead of seeing it as something negative, Frankl saw it as a call to live life fully and with purpose.
2. Freedom
Freedom is about our power to choose how we respond to whatever life throws at us. Frankl famously wrote about this even in the most extreme of circumstances. He believed that no matter what happens, we have the freedom to choose our attitude, our mindset, and our actions. This freedom to choose, even in challenging times, is where we find our strength and shape our true selves.
3. Isolation
Even though we’re connected to others, there’s a part of life’s journey that we walk alone. No one can fully understand our inner world. Frankl believed that this isn’t something to fear, though; instead, it’s an invitation to connect deeply with ourselves. When we become comfortable with this solitude, we can better understand who we are, what we want, and how we can bring more meaning into our lives.
4. Meaninglessness
Life doesn’t come with a fixed meaning; we create it ourselves. Frankl suggested that it’s our job to discover our own purpose. This can be through our relationships, our work, or simply how we treat others. When we find ways to give our lives meaning—through love, growth, or helping others—we create a life that feels rich and satisfying. Frankl’s approach is about embracing these givens rather than resisting them. By doing so, we get closer to living a life that feels true, full of purpose, and deeply fulfilling.
Moving Forward
Frankl’s approach invites us to embrace these givens instead of resisting them. When we do, we open ourselves to a life that feels fuller, purposeful, and more aligned with our true values. Through counselling, I can help you explore these themes and find your unique purpose and resilience. Together, we can work through any fears around these existential realities, creating a safe space to unpack them at a pace that feels right for you.
Ask Yourself:
“What would you change in your life if you fully embraced these four givens?”
Gareth Taylor is an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist based in Kent, UK offering in person and online therapy.
Wherever you may be, please visit:
www.garethtaylorcounselling.com
